Tuesday, August 30, 2016


gender (n.) Look up gender at Dictionary.com
c. 1300, "kind, sort, class," from Old French gendregenre "kind, species; character; gender" (12c., Modern French genre), from stem of Latin genus(genitive generis) "race, stock, family; kind, rank, order; species," also "(male or female) sex," from PIE root *gene- (see genus). Also used in Latin to translate Aristotle's Greek grammatical term genos. The grammatical sense is attested in English from late 14c. The -d- is a phonetic accretion in Old French (compare sound (n.1)).

The "male-or-female sex" sense is attested in English from early 15c. As sex (n.) took on erotic qualities in 20c., gender came to be the usual English word for "sex of a human being," in which use it was at first regarded as colloquial or humorous. Later often in feminist writing with reference to social attributes as much as biological qualities; this sense first attested 1963. Gender-bender is from 1977, popularized from 1980, with reference to pop star David Bowie.

Source: Etymology Dictionary

I have spent over 30 years thinking about this issue and observing changes.  Do I understand it all - nope - I just know the overwhelming evidence is there is no such thing as male or female.  They are mere words based on initial grunts from early man, which evolved into social constructs of the proper role of babies born with vaginas and those born with penises.  There is no medical evidence male, female, and gender are anything but words which developed over time based on observations which are not based in science.

The sexual spectrum is a million options left to right and for each of these options there are another million up and down.

Genitalia is merely a word which describes our penis and vagina.  I will not say sexual organs because that would be inaccurate based on what we now know.

I will not presume to understand anything anyone feels.  I know of someone about to take the final step in surgery to remove the penis in favor of a vagina.  I do not understand it.  Why?  I do not believe either define gender and that you can be 100% woman with a penis and 100% man with a vagina.  But if the surgery is what you need to feel whole,  then so be it.  I do fear the psychological therapy and PC within the transgender community is biased to the concept that gender exists, when there is no scientific evidence gender is anything more than a word.

A woman, what ever that means, is what makes you feel whole - nothing more nothing less.  You  should feel whole.

I do know in 10 years what the self anointed leadership in the transgender community is calling correct today will be denounced as based on a misunderstanding of gender and what it means.

I suffered more discrimination from the Dallas Gay Alliance [back then the term lesbian was not included] than from any other group.  When those of us would raise the issue of bi-sexuality, we were yelled at as mentally ill, in denial about who we were - by the leaders of the Dallas Gay Alliance.  The idea that I cold choose between having sex with a man or a woman based on my instinct went against the PC of the time for these self anointed leaders in the Gay community.

Today, I do not believe is simple bi-sexuality.  It is so, so complex.  Yes, a trio with Angelina Jolie and Victor on the current Big Brother 18 may kill me based on the eroticism.  But that is sex and not intimacy.  Also, sex is not sex - just because I can enjoy sex with a woman does not mean every other man who can enjoy sex with a man or a woman, enjoys it the same way.  It is so, so complex.  Some bi-sexual men can marry a woman and be happy, others cannot.  No one can be put into one box.

I know people in my age group who 30 years ago were offended when I told them the truth.  As society embraced the changes and stigmas went by the way side, people started to give in to their instincts.  What so many couples I know who have been married for 30 and 40 years have learned is, gender roles are a form of slavery and they are discovering sexual pleasures they thought were abnormal because they did not fall into the cubby hole of the social construct of gender.

Guys, abandon the social construct of gender which is a myth based on a grunt by early man, and follow your instincts.  That is who you are.  Be happy - be yourself.

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