Sunday, July 26, 2015

 
ROMANCE AND WHY I DO NOT DATE

 It is sad that such simple and beautiful words have so many people ready to destroy our way of life.  These people know nothing about romance or marriage.  They are so obsessed with the penis and vagina to realize neither have anything to do with romance or marriage.

 No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.”
 

The highlighted part is how I feel about being in love.  Maybe people are so upset with Justice Kennedy’s words because they have never experienced the marriage he speaks of. 

I have nothing against sex.  I still have the libido of an 18 years old – and to be honest – wish it would go away.  But that is the problem.   

If I date and refuse to get in bed with the person by date two, there is no date three.  It is not going to happen.   

Experience teaches me because of the great pleasure which comes from sex, we quickly forget to know one another and maintain the relationship based on the joy of sex.  It does not take long to realize we are not compatible.  So it ends.  I am not going down that path again. 

THE SOCIAL GAME OF DATING 

I am social, but not in the way people want me to be.

I have no problem going to family functions and holding my tongue when I see or hear things which offend me – if you love someone you deal with their family.  I always say you love someone for who they are not who you want them to be.  So this part of the social game is easy.

 I HATE GOING TO SOCIAL FUNCTIONS TO BE SEEN

 I’ve been out with guys who have to be seen at endless political functions.  Or maybe peer functions which have no purpose other than to stand around and drink while talking nonsense and feigning interest in each other’s words.   It always ends in an argument.  Why were not more engaging?  Because I cannot feign interest in stupidity or self-centered people who need to be seen to feel important.

I WILL COMPROMISE

For the right person I would shut down the BV, and go quiet.  I would much prefer a quiet life at home being intimate with the right person.  And for the record if you think intimacy is always sex, you have never experienced true intimacy.

I am not a bar person.  Besides at 57, what business would I have in a bar?  Now a piano bar is different – that I would enjoy. 

I have told ex’s “I trust you, go have fun with your friends.”  This always leads to an argument.  “You do not like my friends?  Why can you just not go to the bar for me? “  I hate the loud music – and besides back then I could not stand the smoke.

WHAT I WANT

The entire Lincoln Park protest was a scam to garner attention for a handful of people – who then abandoned Lincoln Park.  The Valley Interfaith people once again proved themselves con-artists.  Had they truly wanted to save Lincoln Park they would have organized events at Lincoln Park and the amphitheater for the summer. 

For me a perfect date during the summer is theater in the park.  We could have had shows all summer long at Lincoln Park – live music  - live theater – the people of Brownsville would have packed the park.  I would have been there with my picnic basket with wine, cheese, and sandwiches.

For me this is great romance.  Going to Louie’s Backyard for finger food, maybe a drink and watching the fireworks is an evening of romance.  Sometimes just being with the person you love enjoying the simple pleasures in life is all it takes.

BUILDING A LIFE

You must be on the same page.  My page is now leaning towards retirement.  I know what I want.  Once Buster is gone, I want to travel.  We are getting close on Cuba – it will be a center point in the 2016 elections.  The United States Chamber of Commerce has already announced it will oppose any Republican who supports the boycott.

With any luck as billions of US dollars roll into Cuba, Cuba will remain Cuba culturally – while improving the quality of life for the people.

The food – the music, the beaches – it is going to be something.  I want to go early because my fear is it will become another Cancun.  The Cancun I knew 25-30 years is long dead.  Now, it is an American tourist trap, and not Mexico. 

I need a man who will understand I need to read.  I am about to start reading Blackstone again.  This is going to bring me incredible joy for a few months.  I love thinking.  I have been writing a lot on the social construct and the evolution of law.  It matters not to me it will never be published.  It brings me joy, and I need a man who can understand that. 

In comprise I realize I may have to feign joy for a week in Paris – but that is okay because then he is going to have to feign joy during one of my trips which is purely archeological.  I’m not into fancy food.  I am into archeology, anthropology, and the sociology of ancient cultures and civilizations.   I love “Walking Dead” because of the evolution of society the show represents – the sociology.  The walking dead are just a vehicle for telling the story of the evolution of civilization.

The two men I think are interested in me I think are both concerned dating me means being in the lime light in a way they prefer not to be.  I get that.  I would much prefer to disappear from the Internet yesterday than be public. 
 
I would never ask either of them out because It is not who I am.  I’ve just never learned to do that.

But in the end, if any man is unwilling to get to know me – and I mean me – for 6 months before being sexually intimate – we are going nowhere.

Sexual intimacy with someone you love is about pleasing them, and not yourself.  In the end it works out.

Also, people need to learn there is more to sex than penetration.  There are many ways to please your partner without having to exert yourself to the point of being tired.  It is sad how many people take sex out of their life because they claim they are too tire.  The problem there is these people never learned about pleasing their partner or their partner pleasing them.  There is so much more to sex than exerting yourself.

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