Saturday, March 28, 2015


Psalm 23 King James Version (KJV)

23 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

This is actually my second post on this - I just accidently deleted the first - It was Joshua's hand that had me delete the first draft.  I am now starting at the end.

In simple terms, I have no reason to want to help the children of my brother or his wife.  The step daughter out of state has basically given me a free hand - so that has been helpful. The daughter who lives near them is beyond a nightmare.  My brother's kids have not lifted a finger to help.

I have spent so many hours fighting on my own for both my brother and sister in law I just reached the point I no longer wanted to deal with any one of them.  I cannot fight everyone so I was done with their kids.  Because of my work they have saved $56,000 in nursing home fees - money the children will inherit.  I have increased their assets by $30,000 plus.  Within two months he will be on 100% VA disability for Agent Orange - the first check will be about $40,000 - retroactive.  The kids do nothing but in the end will inherit everything. I am not suggesting they want the money or are waiting on it - but it nonetheless remains the reality.  I will say my sister in law's daughter who lives out of state is on the same page as me - once my brother passes we will put the mother in the best assisted living money can buy and spend the money down.  This makes me happy.  She deserves to live like a queen.


Joshua  had already given me what I needed - I just had to open my eyes.  Nothing mattered but my brother dying in peace while having mended the hurt between him and his son.  Joshua helped me open my eyes to know I already knew the answer because he gave it to me before I knew I needed it.

My brother and his son have mended - my brother can now pass knowing he is at peace with his son.  In the end all of the years of hurt and my frustration was meaningless.  Joshua through "The Lord is my Shepard" reminded me to just open my eyes and see the light - I did - and now my brother can pass knowing he is at peace with his son.

"The LORD is my Shepard; I shall not wont."


Anonymous said...

I love that psalm and I love that version. Hope you are accomplishing what you need to do.

Anonymous said...

Like the old song goes, "He's not heavy, he's my brother". God Bless you for all you have done to help your brother and sister-in-law. He will pass in peace thanks to your unselfish efforts on his behalf.

BobbyWC said...

This my sound selfish but my guilt is now gone - it is so hard to know what to do - I had to just let go all of the years of neglect by all of the children on both sides and just do the right thing.

I am home and - tired -

Ready to kick butt tomorrow

Bobby WC

Anonymous said...

Good job brother.