Friday, November 7, 2014


 
THE NURSING HOME CALLS ON AVERAGE TWICE A DAY

At least once a day the nursing home calls to tell me my brother has been injured.  The rule is they must call after they stabilize him, even if he is okay and it is 3 a.m.  That first time I panicked and was afraid to answer the phone.

I am grateful they call - but I do not understand how he keeps on falling out of bed or the wheelchair.  Tonight the nurse who calls me nightly said he was on the floor next to the bed on the other side of the room.  He cannot walk.  How did he get there?  Did someone put him in the wrong bed.  They have assured me they have installed reinforced rails.

I am at a loss.  Is this normal?

I have looked into nursing homes in Brownsville - a no go  - I went into two and could not breath from the smell of urine and feces.  The rooms are a lot smaller and every room has two people.  He can afford a private room and from what I am being told that is not an option here.  Where he is at he has his recliner chair which is important to prevent bed sores.  He has a small refrigerator for snacks and his sherbet cups.  I am told here in Brownsville it is not allowed. He has plenty of closet space but here in Brownsville they share one closet.

They just called again - they are taking him to the emergency room.  His leg is injured from the last fall and is swollen - he is in pain. 

Does anyone know a nursing home in Brownsville or Harlingen where he can get quality care.  I would feel so much better if I can run out there when they call me.  For now I just told them to call me the second he is stabilized in the hospital.  I do not care if it is 3 a.m.

We have to be able to do better by our seniors.  I will not get into his finances but I am sure he should be able to afford a private room here in Brownsville or Harlingen.

Any recommendations.  My home is not an option - he needs way too much individual care.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Golden Palms or Camelot in Harlingen?

BobbyWC said...

I will try and check it on Monday

Bobby WC

Anonymous said...

Have you tried Ebony Lake in Brownsville?

BobbyWC said...

yes - not an option

I found a place maybe on Paredes I will check tomorrow - right now I cannot go to bed until the hospital calls - they know I am waiting - this sucks - I need him here where I can better watch him

Bobby WC

Anonymous said...

Spanish Meadows

Anonymous said...

I hope some day my brothers care for me as much as you do for your brother...

Anonymous said...

Bobby, have you checked with the Veterans' home in McAllen? It is very clean.

BobbyWC said...

I would imagine they have a waiting list. Also part of good care in nursing homes is being able to visit your loved ones at different times every day. McAllen would make that hard on me.

I am checking on one on Paredes Line Rd this morning and on Monday one across from the VA clinic in Harlingen - I got a call a few minutes ago that the Harlingen NH is very nice. It would not be an issue for me to drive to Harlingen 3x a week to check on him.

I am so made at the hospital and nursing home. I just called and they sent him back to NH at 3 a.m. and no one called me. I called the EM and told them to call me.

I just called the nursing home and they told me he keeps on sitting up in bed and appears disoriented - they are concerned he has a bladder infection. They said nothing can be done until Monday and the most they can do is keep on checking on him to keep him in bed. The problem is if he tries to get out of bed he will fall. How did the hospital not see the disorientation and check on a possible bladder infection.

I will go next week and if I can I will pay for he medical transport and bring him here if I can find a nursing home. The problem is, his wife - but her daughter is trying to move her to Virginia - we both agree we cannot have them so far away with no one to care for them. I hope the medical transport is not more than $2000 - it is 9 hours each way. He can afford it I just hate to have to use his money that way.

BObby WC

Anonymous said...

Bobby, infections in the elderly are common and often are not diagnosed. If their white count in the labwork is normal, they will miss it. They can still have a uti, sinus, and skin infections. The sudden disorientation is a typical symptom.

Anonymous said...

The disorientation may be to a lack of hydration. This happened to my 90 year old mother-in-law. It took 3 trips to the ER and my mentioning it to the daughter and grand-daughter that lack of hydration causes disorientation.I sure hope you can find some place near by.

Anonymous said...

You are lucky they even use rails. Most now are required to just lower the bed and put a mattress on the floor for when they fall. Restraint is not allowed in some states. Disorientation will not change the other option is medication which causes more problems. Situations like this have no good answers.

Anonymous said...

Atrium Place in Harlingen.

Anonymous said...

But you have the means, do it.

Anonymous said...

Very possible!